Another dose of Dr. Gabor Maté from Zeitgeist: Moving Forward.
Community is the human norm, not profit.
"What we call human nature in actuality is human habit" - yes, that is from the liner notes of Jewel’s first album and, yes, I will quote it for-fucking-ever.
ok, so long reblog is long but.
The way I deal with many people is to view them as a type of plant in my head. (Think synesthesia and not dehumanizing here)
This is because plants, in different conditions, behave in different ways. Things like sunlight, water level, soil nutrients, predatory animal behaviour all affect growth and decay.
People can act and look completely different from how you normally encounter them if they are in a different environment, with different levels of support and love and needs being fulfilled.
But they are the same plant. They act the way they do as a response to both the environment they have been planted in, and the tending or lack of tending they have received as they grow.
(This is a core part of my faith and how I feel connected to others)
It’s not as black and white as this might make it seem, but it’s a pretty good rule of (green) thumb to treat people in the way that they require, unique to them.
Yes, you must protect yourself. But I have found that often, unless you make the effort to go digging, you have no way of knowing what species you are encountering, and then no way of knowing what they need. And sometimes the species doesn’t even matter if you can comprehend the problems and the changes that you can make.
You can’t help a plant grow unless you know the way it needs you.
And those needs will change, so it’s your job to keep asking and seeking what to do.
If it sounds tiring, that’s because it is. But this is how I interact with others, because I do not have any other way. I never tell people what plants they are because to me, it’s not a metaphor for learning to cope with people, it’s just how I process information on other people.
(i wish I knew how to put things under a cut. but these are just my thoughts, so you can skip it if you like)
Trying to get editing done while in a truly foul mood is not a way to make any real progress. UGH!#writingasides
What I want out of a relationship. Someone to dance with me to Van Morrison. Some willing to either let me go to Rock Concerts with friends or willing to go with me and not be a stick in the mud.
So occasionally I will get asked out on dates by people who don’t realize how crazy busy my life is. I got asked out…tonight.
I had plans for tonight. A mass, up for hours, chugging coffee, working on my novel, slog that I have been putting off. It’s something that has to be done tonight or this weekend.
The fact is, I’m exhausted. Work has been very stressful with one of the main people I work…
FAKE GEEK GUYS: A MESSAGE TO MEN ABOUT SEXUAL HARASSMENT
By Andy Khouri
“I think this woman is wrong about something on the Internet. Clearly my best course of action is to threaten her with rape.”
That’s crazy talk, right? So why does it happen all the time?
Honest question, dudes.
That women are harassed online is not news. That women in comics and the broader fandom cultures are harassed online is not news. That these women are routinely transmitted anonymous messages describing graphic sexual violence perpetrated upon them for transgressions as grave as not liking a thing… that is actually news to me, and it’s probably news to a lot of you guys reading this.
So what do we do about it?
This is important.